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HABITS DON’T HAPPEN


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If you’d like to listen instead of read…. So we’re a few weeks into 2015. How are those resolutions coming along? The trending word for resolutions is “habits.” I personally don’t believe in regularly repeated behavior patterns. It’s against my nature. I see them as forced behaviors- something I’m supposed to be doing because it’s good for me. To me, habits have a negative connotation. One of the aspects of ADHD is that we don’t like to be told what to do. If you have it or love someone who does, you know what I’m talking about. HABITS DON’T WORK When I was a child, I didn’t want to respond to my mother’s commands (early warning signs of ADD?): Brush…

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End the Year With An Apology


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It’s the time of year when people evaluate the past year. Hopefully, it was a good one for you. But naturally, as human beings, we don’t always agree or act perfectly. We often say or do things that hurt someone we love. Enter… the apology. But, it’s not so simple. It’s hard to apologize. The apology is a complex thing. Sometimes I want to apologize but I don’t want to admit that I was wrong, yet I want people to apologize to me. I’m not sure why. Do I really believe someone after they say “I’m sorry?” Do you? An apology is required when: 1) I feel bad about something I said or did; or 2) you feel bad about…

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ADHD and errands: Feeling dumb when I know I’m smart


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I know I’m smart but sometimes I feel dumb. When I can’t manage the simple mundane tasks that are required for responsible living, I get down on myself. When my article (pre-viral) was posted on Lifehack, I showed it to my husband. After he read it, he asked me, “Where did you get this from, did you research it?” I looked at him surprised and answered, “No, I didn’t have to do much research. That’s me!” That’s what goes on inside my head.”   We’ve been married 22 years. Some of the points he recognized, but most he didn’t. I thought I was more transparent than that. I wrote that article for him… as an explanation, not an excuse. I wrote…

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