During a recent checkup, I was talking to my allergy doctor, telling him about my work with ADHD. I noticed his eyebrows lifting, and his lips started to curl. I asked him, “You do believe ADHD is real, don’t you?” He gave me that look again. “Not really, I think it’s an overdiagnosed excuse for laziness,” he said to me. I stopped talking at that point. I knew I couldn’t convince him otherwise.

I’m sure you’ve come across this situation too. It is infuriating when people don’t believe you. It’s even worse when they’re your loved ones. People think you’re making excuses. And sometimes, you don’t believe yourself.

It’s as if you need glasses to read. You tell someone the words aren’t clear and they say, “Oh, that’s silly. You’re just not trying hard enough.” But no matter how hard you try, the words are still blurry. They don’t come into focus.

That’s how it is with ADHD. Sometimes, your brain is blurry. And other times, you understand and see clarity where other people don’t. It’s a paradox that confuses people (even the ones who have it).

ADHD is frustrating to live with, for those who have it and their loved ones who don’t understand it. That’s why I wrote this article. It appeared on this week.

“If You Love Me, Please Take This Seriously

We don’t mean to hurt you. But we do — again and again. You feel like screaming, pulling out your hair, or lying in bed and crying, “When will she get it? Will this ever stop?” I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that if you love someone with ADHD, you need to read this with an open mind.”

If you love someone with ADHD, do you believe your ADHDer or do you think they’re making excuses?

If you have ADHD, what do you need from your loved ones?

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