How to Control Racing Thoughts
Racing thoughts can be mental torture. Ruminating is exhausting and stressful. You are never at peace while your mind is continuously in gear. Before you discover ways to control your racing thoughts, it’s necessary to know the source of your overactive mind....
Warning: ADHDer in Hyperfocus Mode
There should be a warning sign near our desks: Danger- Do Not Disturb. ADHDer in Hyperfocus. Get out of our way, do not speak to us, give us a command, ask us a question, or come near us when we are in hyperfocus. In other words, stay away and leave us alone. Sad, but...
5 Things to Remember When Talking to a Person with ADHD
Most conversations are hard. I'm not talking about the problematic talks (about money, jobs, or where you want to live). I'm talking about the little conversations you have throughout the day. The talks you have when you get home from work. The discussions about what...
This is the toughest thing about ADHD
There’s one really tough thing about having ADHD. It's a secret that only another ADHDer understands. No matter how hard you try, you can’t explain it to anyone else. It happens throughout the day, every day. I’m talking about bumping into walls all day. No, not...
Happy New Year! Now Ask Yourself This One Question?
Happy new year! It’s 2018, so now what are you going to do about it? Here’s your chance to be a better you.
Holiday Survival Guide- How to Make Your Holidays Happier
Are You Tired of Feeling Exhausted?
Have you been feeling exhausted lately? Fatigue is a harsh reality when you have ADHD. Some days you wake up so exhausted you feel like you're carrying a pack of bricks on your back. The fog in your head doesn't clear until you've had two cups of coffee, a cold...
Is ADHD Destroying Your Love Life and Your Happiness?
Are you sick and tired of feeling miserable in an ADHD relationship? Here are 6 quick tips to fix it and be happy in love.
My Crazy New Cure for Anxiety
One day last week I felt a dreaded cycle of anxiety coming on. You know how it goes. One small thought gets stuck in your mind, then it sticks and grows until you're buried under it and you can't get out. I call it the thought-valanche because it's an avalanche in the...
Avoiding Something Won’t Make It Go Away
Avoidance can be a major problem for a person with ADHD. When things are difficult, uncomfortable, or anxiety-producing; we pretend they don't exist and hope they'll go away so we don't have to deal with them. We avoid filing taxes, paying bills, projects or...
8 Holiday Stressors and How to Fix Them
Oh yay! It's holiday time. Parties, family get-togethers, shopping, gift giving, meal planning, travel and lots of visitors. Sounds like fun, doesn't it? Well, not so much if you have ADHD. While everyone else is joyful, holidays bring up a lot of discomfort for an...
ADHD is Real
PLEASE TAKE MY ADHD SERIOUSLY During a recent checkup, I was talking to my allergy doctor, telling him about my work with ADHD. I noticed his eyebrows lifting, and his lips started to curl. I asked him, "You do believe ADHD is real, don't you?" He gave me that look...
How ADHD Coaching Helped My Depression- Rachel's Story
One woman’s story of how ADHD Coaching Helped Her Overcome Depression
Nobody wants to believe their brain is different
I always knew I was different. When I was a child, I knew the answers before the other kids did, but I wasn't confident enough to raise my hand. I was two steps ahead of the lesson. I stared out the classroom window and got lost in the trees, but I always came back...
How to NOT spend money (you don’t have)
https://www.quora.com/How-can-a-person-who-has-ADHD-become-less-impulsive Impulse control is a major problem when you have ADHD. If not properly controlled, the consequences are severe. If you can’t regulate your actions, thoughts, and speech; your life can get messy....
Let's love each other
When bad things happen in the world, there is an intense feeling of helplessness. If you have ADHD, images from TV and words from articles you read stick with you for days.
You sit helplessly with an overpowering feeling of discomfort. You go about your day; preparing meals, going to work, taking care of children, running errands, but there’s a black cloud that follows you everywhere you do. How could people be so evil? How could anyone do something so horrendous? What is wrong with the world?
Drowning in sadness, you think there is nothing you can do. But, you can do something.
Q&A about ADHD
I recently discovered Quora.com; a question and answer site where you can ask an expert anything. I'm pleased to announce that I am the top "Most Viewed Writer" for Attention Deficit Disorder and Adult ADHD (two separate categories). It's been an enlightening...
You are good enough (and you're even better than that)
Do you hear negative comments telling you you’re not good enough? Have you lost faith in yourself? You don’t have to listen to those comments. They’re not true.
Are People with ADHD Hard to Love?
It's a fact; a person with ADHD is hard to love. You never know what to say. It's like walking through a minefield. You tiptoe around; unsure which step (or word) will be the one that sets off an explosion of emotion. It's something you try to avoid. That's the first...
8 Instant Anxiety Solutions
If you’ve ever had a panic attack, try these 8 exercises that will calm you instantly.
Am I an enabler or a compassionate mom?
This was an email chat I had with my daughter this week. Hi Mom, I know I'm trying to be good with my money and avoid asking you for help but I really really need it this time. I don't get paid until Friday and I have no gas or food. I am up in the north office today...
Latest ADHD News & A Smoking Chimp
Hi Friends! Is that chimpanzee smoking? I didn't know it when I took the picture. When I put it on my computer, there he was, smoking away. Well anyway, I hope you're having a great summer hanging out with your friends, soaking up some sun, and taking vacation time....
7 Ways to Take Control of Your Mind
In the last blog, I talked about the benefits of mind control and how we distract ourselves when the negative voice gets too loud. Hopefully by now you are ready to receive the "how-to" steps for silencing that voice and taking back control of your mind. For those of...
Stop Negative Thoughts- 5 Benefits of Mind Control
Those nasty negative thoughts. That silent voice in your head. Heart-pounding anxiety. Worried thoughts that morph into frightening scenarios. Terrifying visions stuck in your head that won't go away. Negative thoughts are unpleasant, scary, and the cause of anxiety....
ADHD, Adam, and Me
I always wanted to be famous. I dreamt of dancing on Broadway. I practiced the speech I would give when my name was called at the Oscars. That didn't happen. I found fame on the Internet. In October of 2014, I submitted my weekly article to Lifehack.org just as I had...
Don't Say You Have ADHD
Unless you are a person with an ADHD brain, it's hard to believe that ADHD is real. People usually think it’s an excuse or nonsense. If you have ADHD, you remember being the child who stared out the window while the teacher was talking. Or maybe you were clowning...
How to Not Get A Divorce or Scream At Your Kids
This blog was inspired by a webinar on ADDitudeMag.com presented by Dr. Ellen Littman. (drellenlittman.com) Being a mom or a wife can be the job from hell, especially if you have ADHD. There's an explanation. Emotional hypersensitivity. It sounds...
The Mystery of Imagination and Magical Thinking
The imagination is a beautiful thing. I love mine. As a creative ADHDer; I see visions, images, and things that other people cannot see. If I don't create, I get cranky. I'm happiest when the images flow through me and join to create something meaningful. NEGATIVE...
What do you see in this photo?
Look at this photo. What do you see? If you have ADHD, you see what others don't see. You see more. Your creative vision is x-ray vision. You see beyond the surface. Some people see raindrops, you see sparkling reflective circles dancing on your window. Some people...
For my photo-loving, book addicted, paper-piling friends and their loved ones.
Never underestimate someone else’s mess. What might seem like a pile of junk to you might very well be of great value to someone else. A PHOTO IN A FRAME For me, a photo in a frame isn’t just a picture; it’s a glance at a memory that triggers a nostalgic emotion of...
HABITS DON’T HAPPEN
So we're a few weeks into 2015. How are those resolutions coming along? The trending word for resolutions is "habits." I personally don’t believe in regularly repeated behavior patterns. It's against my nature. I see them as forced behaviors- something I'm supposed to...
End the Year With An Apology
It's the time of year when people evaluate the past year. Hopefully, it was a good one for you. But naturally, as human beings, we don't always agree or act perfectly. We often say or do things that hurt someone we love. Enter... the apology. But, it's not so simple....
ADHD and errands: Feeling dumb when I know I'm smart
I know I'm smart but sometimes I feel dumb. When I can't manage the simple mundane tasks that are required for responsible living, I get down on myself. When my article (pre-viral) was posted on Lifehack, I showed it to my husband. After he read it, he asked me,...
How's your gratitude attitude?
Be grateful. Be thankful. Appreciate what you’ve got. Get ready, it’s countdown to gratitude day. Just flip the switch and change your feelings, thoughts, desires, and dreams. Poof! Just like that. Gratitude isn’t a switch that you turn on and off when you need it.
How comfortable is your comfort zone?
Change is scary. It's easier to keep things the same, even if they're not so great. Change means that you have to become uncomfortable. Ugh! Nobody wants that. I know I don't. Every time I get a new cell phone, app, or download the latest Mac software, it's a drama...
Please Don't Label Me
How quick do you label someone else's behavior? How do you react when someone is not acting the way you want them to? It's easy to become annoyed with people. It's reality. We annoy each other. But what do you do when you're annoyed with someone? You probably get...
Maintain Your Dignity Today
It's easy to get swept into someone else's negativity. Negative emotions are a strong force that grab you and suck you in like a tornado. Before you know it, you're swept away and feeling miserable. You don't have to become a part of it. You have the...
Yes, I have ADHD
Yes, it’s true. My Lifehack.org article, "20 Things To Remember If You Love Someone Who Has ADD, is about me. I've never been medically diagnosed. I just know I think "differently," and always have. I've never been on medication for it. I've just learned how to live...
Own your ADHD, baby! Love it! Live it! Enjoy it!
It is unbelievable, incredible, and amazing! My latest article on Lifehack.org- 20 Things To Remember If You Love Someone Who Has ADD- went viral!! It continues to fly through the internet at the speed of light. I still cannot believe that over 1 million people shared...
Are You Wishing Other People Would Change?
Are you thinking “if only” he or she (whatever his or her name is) would do what I want I’d be so happy?
It’s the most ridiculous human behavior. We continuously attempt to change people without getting any result. We keep banging our heads against the wall and nothing changes- zero, zilch, nada. But that doesn’t stop us.
How to deal with difficult people
You know the one who they are. Everyone has a (at least one) difficult person in their life. I see it as part of the Universal plan. There’s something I am supposed to be learning. I should consider myself lucky. This is my chance to become a better person, to grow,...
These Sneaky Words Are Ruining Your Day
Did you know there are words and phrases you use every day that are making you anxious, stressed out and unhappy? Those sneaky words are hidden in the conversations you have with yourself. And they can turn your happy day into a miserable one. One little word...
3 Simple Steps to Make Your Evening Great
Once there was a wise man. Every night on his way home, he would think about his day: the people he spoke to, the problems he had to deal with, and the situations that remained unresolved. Naturally, he was consumed with his own thoughts and experiences. Every night...
12 Reasons Why You Should Love Having ADD
Don't you think it's time to stop the negativity of ADD? Yes, it's a challenge. Tasks take longer, there are lots of distractions, but there are also many benefits. Too often we forget about those. We become chained down to the negative burden of ADD/ADHD. Let's...
12 Ways to Deal With A Stubborn Person and Convince Them To Listen To You
If you have a stubborn person in your life, consider yourself lucky. Stubborn people can be annoying, stressful and drive you crazy. Your stubborn person could be the person who sits next to you at work or your own father. Once you learn how to work with him (not...
Why You Should Love The People You Hate
THIS POST APPEARED ON LIFEHACK.ORG "If you and I are having a single thought of violence or hatred against anyone in the world at this moment, we are contributing to the wounding of the world..." — Deepak Chopra Okay, so you might have a hard time believing that your...
How Searching for Serenity Changed My Food Choices
I didn't want to become vegan when I got into Mussar(spiritual personal excellence). I just wanted to relieve my stress, sleep better at night, and not worry so much. I had no idea it was a full-time job. Well, it is. There is no on/off switch for self-improvement. I...
THE SHOCKING TRUTH ABOUT HAPPINESS
So... you say you want to be happier? Are you sure about that? What if it means that you have to get down to the nitty-gritty hard-core reality of you? I don’t mean digging up the past. I’m talking about living in the present. Life cannot be lived to the fullest if...
The 3:00 a.m. Panic Attack
THE 3:00 A.M. PANIC ATTACK... I try so hard to keep calm and carry on. I’ve read every positive psychology book on how to manage panic. I’ve been in every type of therapy, I thought for sure, I could ease up on some of the tension I felt. I had heard it all: let go,...
5 ways to stop negative thinking now!
OMG! What did I just say? I can't believe I said that? That's me I'm talking to. I don't usually pay much attention to it, but when I stop the noise in my head, I realize I am the only one I hear. Sure, there are lots of people I talk to all day, but the...
How long does it really take to wash the dishes?
When I started my Realizations Project, I had no idea where I was going with it. Soon the pieces started to fall into place. Everything came together and then I realized what had happened, I was living in AWARENESS. When I became aware of what I was doing, when I...
Do you want to be happier?
Hi! I'm June and I'd like to help you bring a lot more happiness into your life. You might be surprised to discover that your path to happiness isn't what you thought it might be. You can learn how to bring peace into your relationships, resolve your conflicts, turn...
Master Your Emotions
Ok, so now it’s time to calm your crazy life by mastering your emotions. You might be asking exactly how are we are going to do this. See, my emotions can get a little carried away sometimes. If I don’t grab them before they go whirling out of control like a blown-up...
Calm Your Crazy
Really? Calm Your Crazy? That’s the name I chose to define my work? When my branding consultant suggested it, I thought she was crazy. How could I say that? I’m teaching personal excellence and self-help. In her adorable Southern style, she said to me, “I hope you're...